Memorial Day: A Time to Remember and Reflect

Blog written by Erin Jones, M.A., M.Ed., LPC
Image by Hans Bijstra, 2020

I recently had the privilege to attend a family member’s honor ceremony. He was an Air Force veteran. This was not the first National Cemetery I have had the opportunity to visit, nor the only military loved one lost in my family, but as I gazed at the headstones in view while Taps was played, I could not help but feel the weight of the lives represented there that morning. My mind drifted with so many questions. I found myself wondering about all the life stories associated with the headstones I could see from my vantage point. I thought about how many of those might have died in the line of duty, and as a mental health professional, I could not help but think about the grief and loss represented there that day. My heart sank a bit thinking about all the family members who have mourned those there.
Why do we celebrate Memorial Day? As Memorial Day approaches, and with one of my own children preparing to enter boot camp, I've been reflecting on the true significance of this day. It's not just a day off or a time for barbecues. It's a day to honor those who have made the ultimate sacrifice for our country. When children ask about Memorial Day, it's important to convey this gravity to help them understand the true meaning of this day. Memorial Day is more than just the long weekend we associate with the unofficial start of summer. It is a solemn occasion to pay tribute to the brave individuals who laid down their lives in defense of our nation. Their sacrifices have secured our liberties and ensured the safety and security of future generations. It is a day to remember their courage, honor their memories, and express our gratitude for their service.
A little history: Memorial Day is observed on the last Monday of May and is a day of remembrance for those who have died in military service to the United States. This holiday, steeped in history and significance, serves as a poignant reminder of the sacrifices made by countless men and women to protect the freedoms we enjoy today. Memorial Day, as we know it today, has its roots in the aftermath of the Civil War, a conflict that claimed more American lives than any other war in our history. Originally called Decoration Day, it was a time set aside for decorating the graves of those who died in the war with flowers. The first widely recognized observance of Decoration Day was on May 30, 1868, when General John A. Logan declared it a day for the nation to decorate the graves of those who died in defense of their country during the Civil War. Over time, the observance expanded to honor all American military personnel who died in service. In 1971, Memorial Day was officially declared a national holiday by an act of Congress, and its date was set as the last Monday in May, ensuring a three-day weekend for Americans.
How can we honor those who sacrificed it all? Visit a Cemetery or Memorial: Many people visit cemeteries and memorials to place flags, flowers, or other mementos on the graves of those who served. National cemeteries often host special events and ceremonies. There is something quite sobering about the sea of headstones seen at the National Cemeteries, and it is a valuable lesson to our children to honor those who gave it all. Did you know that there is a National Moment of Remembrance? At 3 p.m., whatever your local time is on Memorial Day, pause for one minute to remember and honor those who have died in military service. This collective act of remembrance unites the nation in gratitude and reflection.
Considering mental health and support: Military members and their families can carry a unique emotional burden. They can also be at a higher risk for mental health struggles, including Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), anxiety, depression, grief, loss, and even addiction. I think the most meaningful way any of us can honor those who have fallen serving our country is to support current veterans and their families. Beyond acts of kindness such as paying it forward when you see a service person behind you in line somewhere, or stopping to shake their hand and say thank you, consider donating your time, talents, or even finances to a trusted organization that supports veterans. Remember that the families of our service men and women make sacrifices as well. Taking time to thank those who serve, honor those who have fallen, and support their family members can make a significant difference in the lives of our military members and their loved ones. At Healthy Horizons, veterans and their families are honored, and a standing discount is offered to every vet. If you know a veteran who could benefit from counseling support, validate and show your appreciation for their experience. Let them know there is hope and help. Feel free to share this blog and let them know we are here for them! 
As you prepare for Memorial Day, remember that it is a day of profound significance. It offers an opportunity to remember and honor the heroes who have made the ultimate sacrifice for our nation. By participating in meaningful observances, reflecting on the importance of this day, and sharing the purpose of this National holiday, we can ensure that their legacy lives on in our hearts and minds.

For more information about Erin and the services provided for our veterans and their families at Healthy Horizons, visit:  https://www.yourhealthyhorizons.com/team.html
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